With the New Year upon us, it’s a wonderful time to step out of the business of our lives, reflect on the year to come and ask what is really important to us.
Our ordinary lives develop a momentum. The unfolding of each day and week is the result of the decisions we made last week, last month and even last year. Now that’s great, provided we take time to reflect on what we’ve created and ask ourselves if the reality fits with our initial imaginings. But we often miss this step.
We forget that it’s not just visioning, but consistently re-visioning that’s important.
When I take a look in the rearview mirror, I realise that I need to become more discerning, in order to pursue my most heartfelt passions and commitment. That will require learning to say no to those things which no longer serve me.
The Traps of Superficial Goal-Setting
The idea of setting goals for ourselves in the New Year is certainly not new. And as many people will tell you its not always effective. While goal setting can be helpful, it tends to be instrumental: focused on what a person will do or have. If undertaken superficially, goal setting is unlikely to result in a significant transformation in your life.
Instead, we need to ask ourselves where many of our goals come from…..
A continuous tide of consumerism assaults us daily. So many messages bombard us about what creates happiness, that we can run ourselves into the ground in pursuit of fool’s gold. Finding ourselves exhausted and unsatisfied we set even more superficial goals and wonder why we feel depressed and unfulfilled.
In order to create authentic and deeply fulfilling lives, we need to tune out this white noise and connect with a deeper wisdom within ourselves.
Connecting to Your Deepest Vision
At the Global Coaching Institute we prefer a deep visioning that starts with who and how you want to be in the world. We believe that only when you are deeply connected to that, can you trust the plans and actions that follow.
Deep visioning assumes that deep within ourselves is a knowing about the right path for our lives. It is also based on an understanding that what call us, can be realised.
Not quite believing these things results in what Robert Fritz describes as settling for what we think we can or should have instead. This is the path of compromise.
Our deepest visions are not only possible, but greatly needed in today’s world.
Our Deepest Dreams and Purpose
In our GCI programs, we teach coaches and would-be coaches to uncover their clients’ deepest dreams and life myths. Connecting with these, they can live lives with a deep sense of purpose.
Visioning is an organic process. This means we don’t need to vision in isolation. We can work with our embodied wisdom and the many signals and invitations which the world presents and discover what direction we are already headed in.
For instance this year, I didn’t consciously set out to create a vision through meditation or other exercises. Instead I noticed what drew my attention and was holding energy for me. I found myself clearing out notes, papers and journals that go back over a decade, and realised I was making space for something. Though I don’t quite yet know what it is, I am holding a conscious and welcoming space for what will emerge, as I go about my daily life.
So relax. You don’t have to feel pressured to know your direction for the year to come. Allow what you sense to cook within you. Pay attention to your inner knowing and your outer world. Notice unexpected events. Allow synchronicities to pop up and engage with them.
Listening to Our Senses; Inner and Outer
Connecting with our deepest vision is about making ourselves available and listening to what we sense. Become like a hiker in nature. Enjoying what is around you and then discover what has caught your attention.
Take the opportunity now to connect with your deepest dreaming and reset your compass for the year to come.
If your vision happens to be working with others, to realise their deepest dreams and potential, you might like to check out our global coaching programs.